A few months ago, I attended a development workshop, and part of the curriculum included a discussion on workplace bullying. Most people think of bullying as being something that happens in school, but I can assure you that it happens everywhere. I can think of numerous instances throughout my life where I have either been the target of bullying, or witnessed it firsthand. Fortunately, I was raised in a home where I was loved and supported unconditionally, and I was taught to embrace individuality in myself and others. That support system has always given me the courage to handle conflict.
I am a bully’s worst nightmare, because not only will I not be intimidated, I will be an advocate for others being bullied and rally the troops to be an ally of the victim. How do I do this? First, I set the example by not allowing myself to be intimidated by the bully. Then, I make sure I’m a source of encouragement to victims of bullying. You see, bullies prey on those whom they believe are weak. They have to, because they are weak themselves, lacking self-confidence, self-worth and feeling valued. They cannot handle conflict, so preying on those who are less confident than they are gives them an edge.
I will leave you today with some food for thought on this subject. Bullying, division of country and terrorism have a common thread. All three begin with the mindset of one overpowering the mindset of another. Rather than collaborating and compromising in the name of love and respect, the path of animosity and hatred is chosen for the sake of gaining power and sometimes notoriety and financial gain.
“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing