There must be something in the air this week. I’m not sure if it’s changes in the force of nature, or coincidence, but several people have had conversations with me about their life. Could they have done more? Should they have taken a different course in their education, or career? Maybe different life choices?
Often, these thoughts are brought on by one being around others who appear more successful by the world’s value scale. Maybe they have a larger house, a nicer car, or take elaborate vacations. The first thought is that the person probably has a lot of money and is very successful in their career, right? Consider this. What if the person is living their life for the show, rather than genuinely living their life? What if they have a lot of debt from going down this road of impressing others with the things they possess and places they go?
I once had a conversation with someone about the health of their pet, discussing the importance of heartworm preventative medication year round. With the weight of this person’s dog, the cost of the medication would average around $7 per month. The response? “It’s just not in our budget right now.” This is a family that lives in a high end neighborhood, drives high end cars, kids in private school and they take nice vacations, yet $7 per month to save their beloved pet’s life was not in the budget.
If you are evaluating your value by looking at the possessions and accomplishments of another, think about this. If you had all those things that person has, would you truly be happier? Would people respect you more? What is it about your own life that leads you to believe you’re not a happy, accomplished person?
I love these two quotes below that puts things in perspective. Perhaps they will help you, too:
Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own. Harold Coffin
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change. Gretchen Rubin