A few weeks ago, I was working with my step-daughter to surprise her dad with a visit from her and her family. We had already been planning to stay a weekend at my brother-in-law’s lake house, so getting him to the destination for the surprise was easy. The hard part was me not slipping up and revealing the surprise.

In order to pack the things I needed for the trip that would include our grandkids in that family, I had to work with another one of our daughters to make my husband believe they might be joining us at the lake house that weekend. One deceit turned into two, or three more, so he wouldn’t suspect anything. As planning progress, more people needed to be brought into what I had started jokingly referring to as “The Lie”. After almost slipping up for a third time, I mentioned to a friend how hard it is to lie. I had to remember what I had said, then tie up any loose ends that might lead my husband actually finding out about the surprise.

When we were finally at the lake house, and the surprise was over, I could finally breathe a sigh of relief. No longer would I have to remember what I had told my husband about plans, who was joining us, why I was packing certain snacks and kid friendly things, etc.

One would think planning such a surprise shouldn’t have been such a struggle for me, but when a person is not being authentic, life is a struggle. These two quotes are the perfect summary of being authentic.

.Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth becomes more important than looking good. – Alan Cohen

If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything. – Mark Twain