If you see a man wearing an Armani suit and stepping into a Mercedes, do you automatically think he is successful and wealthy? What if you saw a woman wearing a Versace dress and a pair of Manolo Blahnik shoes, accessorized with a Prada handbag and high-end jewelry? Would you equate that to success and wealth? Or, would your first thought be that maybe they have a lot of debt to look that impressive?

The majority of the people I know who wear these brands are those that just sincerely like the brand. On the other hand, I’ve been acquainted with others who shop the outlets and consignment shops to get the high-end clothing, shoes and jewelry at a discount. Again, nothing wrong with that, if you truly like the brands and love how they look on you. It’s those who purchase the brands and dig deep in their wallet, or pocketbook to purchase high end items for the purpose of looking wealthy, when they aren’t. For example, I know a woman who spends a small fortune on hair, nails and make-up and wears a mink any time she visits someone in the hospital in hopes she will attract the attention of an eligible doctor, all the time complaining about her finances and lack of money.

If you have ever made a purchase of a car, item of clothing, expensive television, or something of that nature, and your first thought is the excitement of others seeing you with these possessions, I encourage you to rewire your brain on this type of thinking. What people like most about you is when you’re being your genuine, true self -especially if that self is kind, respectful to others and comfortable in their own skin. Remember, whether it’s a pair of Prada sneakers, or a pair of Skechers, at the end of the day, they’re both sneakers.

“Don’t let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It’s your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don’t let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality — not yours. There is more to life than pleasing people. There is much more to life than following others’ prescribed path. There is so much more to life than what you experience right now. You need to decide who you are for yourself. Become a whole being. Adventure.”
― Roy T. Bennett